These are two different things. Michele means that the wayward spouse show absolute contrition to win back trust from the abandoned spouse. Fooled Again still needs to get to the place where the affair has ended. Cutting off contact has to occur if the wayward spouse wants to earn back the abandoned spouse. Maybe he wants to come back but he wants it to be easy. Maybe he wants to have more time to decide. Maybe he wants status quo? Who knows?
My comment about sex was to look at it from his point of view. People view sex differently. I have read several scenarios where sex was just sex. Physical. For some couples it was reconnecting and bonding. Nostalgic. For others it was closure. Sympathy. For still more it was one spouse cheating on the OP!! Revenge.
But maybe it is that you are more attractive than ever!!! And husbands and wives love to do what they gotta do!!! Act as if!! PMA!!
Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."
