Sorry snodderly just wrote the above without realising you had replied! (not used to format and terrible with technology) As usual you have hit the nail on the head I completely lost my identity in the marriage and lived only for him. I really feel I dont know who I am and am obsessing about the future, and if I can cope without him which is nuts as I have done for a year. Its the roller coaster of hope and despair- "I want a divorce no wait a minute I will decide in the new year "etc.Cant bear to think of my life if he doesnt return because of the way this ended-no effort to rebuild,no anger, still love, but fear and confusion also .Am praying so hard he finds peace and clarity. His guilt is enormous and I worry that this will get in the way of us being able to become close.Thank you for your posts .
