H is very aware that what he's doing is wrong and also aware that I was hurt. I think the guilt from that is what keeps him so distant. I didn't think of it as him seeing me in a positive light though. Interesting.
Are you doing anything to help lessen your H's guilt? Validating...acting as if? I think you are so his guilt should be lessening and he should start to see you in a more positive light...hmmm...could it be???...maybe...but try not to watch the pot waiting for the water to boil.
