NikB #27 (still tentatively Piecing)

[NikB]

Thanks all!

Hope everyone had a great 4th - I know I did. I'll post more on that soon.

((((Michelle, ST, SD)))) Thanks!

ST
Yes - in a way it got made for him. I think you're right he was a little relieved. The more he's thought about it this week the happier he is with how it worked out, so that's good. I'm not actually sure if he has a locker, but definitely a toolbox (and yes people would definitely see it there but I know he'd probably show them anyway!).

SD
Thank you so much! I am definitely recognizing my own positives as well. I was hoping that came through in my posts but it may not have clearly. Yes, I agree that the whole dynamics of the conversation were better on both sides.

LOVE the bandaid analogy, thanks. Not even brand name....

H can cheat at any time, but if I focus on me and my M, it's less likely to happen.

I guess this is one thing that I struggle with... I'm sure we all do. I know that this is true but at the same time, I don't really like living with this feeling that "if H isn't happy with the M all the time he's going to cheat on me" - that it's his first response, as opposed to working on things WITH me. I want some kind of reassurances, you know? Knowing that it COULD happen is a little bit different somehow, than knowing it's the most likely "first response" to unhappiness. I dunno if that makes any sense. It'll be something to address down the road a ways, I think.