Gypsy, I don't know. I don't want people to just agree with me and look at my H as the big stinky dog. I know my part in our trouble. No one gets into these problems from just one person. People keep saying I will get angry, but I honestly haven't found any anger.
Today I feel peace. I like me, who I am. I have decided just to love my H with no expectations. I've laid myself bare in front of him. Figuratively and literally, in case you wonder. I could get completely shattered, who knows.
The problems were not all his doing. It is his issue that he wanted to walk, not mine. But, the problems were ours. All I can do is listen and tell and show him I love him.
Time will tell what effect it will have.
Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.
