Dryheat and naej. Both of you said you were not going to post to me, then you do. Now stop it.
naej, you go see a mental health counselor. Ok. I'm fine. I know where I stand. Thanks your praying for my wife to leave further. You are right you should never post to me again. Your little witty comment about the laundry wasn't even funny. Did you ever think that she is the one that created the rocks. Now go away.
A maid. No I never wanted her protrayed as a maid. The list of things she did the way she did was her decision. The woman ran a tight ship. Maybe too tight, and that is why maybe the woman is running. I always told her to slow down. Everything doesn't always have to be so clean and perfect. Maybe she overwelmed herself.
Ian. I'm not judging anyone. Really you are not helping. I may have missed the message because I feel like I'm being bombarded with nonsense. Maybe some of it wasn't nonsense maybe some of it was. Perhaps I wasn't in the right mind frame to take in all the advice and deploy it. It may have been a better idea to not post here at all right after she left. Some of the advice that I tried to implement caused more problems with her. Telling her not to come to the house? Do not do laundry anymore? Stop taking things from the house. Stop using resources from the house. If you come to the house to spend time with your son then don't go in the bathroom for 15 minutes and redo your makeup. Ian, by the way. We will not see on the religion aspect eye to eye. Well let me tell you something. There is only one true Church and it is Catholic. Now if you want to loose focus and go down that road, I will roll.
Maybe if some of us would act like the Christians we say we are we would not be in this predicament of divorce or seperation. If we stay true to one another and fight for one another rather than fighting against one another there would not even be a word divorce. Rather than try to misunderstand we understand.
I maybe should have grieved her leaving and then got myself in a better mind frame before I started talking about anything. Putting up with the nonsense on this board, going to work, going to school, dealing with the kids, and dealing with her is enough to deal with.
Bottom line here was a major problem. She acted like an idiot through the whole marriage. Temper tantrums, immaturity, and selfishness. Most of the time I would let the crap go, blow it off, or say something that didn't help the situation. Then I would get to the point where I would just snap. Then the snapping just made things worse. Now maybe if I don't respond at all to the nonsense then she will soften.
You know during the whole marriage I prayed for her heart to soften and not be so critical of me. She said she prayed for me to stop drinking. Now really...
Did she ever stop to think that maybe if she wasn't so critical of me I wouldn't have acted like an a$$ towards her. I gave into all of her demands. Yes sometimes I fought them a little, because sometimes you have to let logic take over.
I was building a house on top of my house. I was doing most of the work myself. I did have some help from friends. I put many long hours in on the weekends. Some weekends I took a break. If I did I was lazy. My body was in constant pain from something.
You know maybe I just need some support on this board. Encouragement and stopped being ridiculed. It seams everyone is so damn critical of my situation.
Please if you post try and be helpful. Leave your wit at the door. You are not going to beat me down.
You think I'm arrogant, holier than now holy roller, well then you go and think that. I am not afraid. I think I have many flaws and it would be plenty easy not to be a Christian. Then I could just throw all the rules out of the window and be my own god. I know that is not the case, and there is no truth in that.
Yes, I'm fighting for my family. Yes, I'm most likely doing plenty of things wrong. I have to learn what works.
Now I'm not sure if I addressed everyone's little question because this has some how turned into a circus. I'm not trying to be holier than now. I'm not trying to be arrogant. I think it is an overachieve mindset.
Let me ask any of you this. Do you think you would have the energy to walk in my shoes?
