Also, start buying books on how to build a happy family in your household and leave them around the house. READ them, but leave them out so she can see you are reading and maturing.
Don't argue with her.
Just IGNORE her and mature into an adult, you have the opportunity to win her back like an adult.
Look at this like she has cancer. Your home has a cancer right now. You can grumble and fight with her, you can have breakdowns and get all ME focussed, OR you can help HER.
She's upset, she's miserable, she's scared. Show her she's living with an adult, show her that your son has an adult for a father rather than some snivveling drug user and she may change her mind. How can you expect her to want to say when you arne't offering her anything different?
YOU change, and SHE will.
If you want HER to change, YOU need to change.
She has a cancer in her home, its time for you to grow up and see her thorugh this. If you want to hide and cry then you can writ eyour marriage off right now.
Fill your home iwth what she wants. Go to a rehab center and volunteer for God sakes. You have a great opportunity there to show her there is an adult in you. Don't point fingers at her, she's scared and thinks she's living with a child...and you want to criticize HER as a defence?
Dude, stop worrying about her fits and temper, thre's a cancer in her home and she needs an adult to see her through that and let her know everything's going to be allright.
Tell her outright YOU were contaminating the household and that isn't going to happen anymore. Walk proud as a mature adult my friend. Dazzle her with maturity.
If I were you, I would flood your home with books on drug rehab and work with addicts part time. This is a chance to show her that you are reformed, mature, and that you care about people.
THIS will make the OM look like an ass, mature the OM out of your home. THAT is how you win this one back is by OUT-MATURING the OM.
Stop reading this forum and get started :
Books to read
Relationship Rescue by Phil McGraw Divorce Remedy by Michele Davis After the Affair by Sping Not Just Friends by Glass
Get some other good books on building a happy home and sprinkle them around the house.
Get up away from your PC, you have work to do my friend. Enjoy the road back to a happy marriage. Own your past, move that past to a proud future.
