Mulesqb - Can the sun shine on a donkey's a$$?

[faithisbelieving]

I actually left work early on the 3rd and didn't go on the computer the entire weekend.

WTG...you need to get away from this stuff and simply STOP from time to time.

I think I mentioned that I was reading a book I downloaded online entitled - Survive Your Wife's Midlife Crisis. It talks about a lot of the same things that you guys mention - particularly that she can't be fixed, so don't even try and things of that nature.

I've read similar books and I think they tend to simplify this thing they call MLC for US. One of the books even went so for to 'honestly' say that they will be looking at younger men and that we should do everything possible to look young and attractive. It behooves you to understand that no matter WHAT YOU DO...this is her ride and you cannot control it. The classic line is true...there isn't much you can do to reel them in but there is a LOT you can do to drive them away.

She said that her family made her feel like she wasn't pretty growing up and for some reason when she gets attention now from other men she likes it. I asked her if she felt that I never gave her that type of attention (I told her I loved her and she looked great every day of our M without failure).

mules, I don't mean to burst any bubbles, but, I find this to be a horrible warning sign and CLASSIC for MLC. Please be careful.

She told the boys right to their faces that they are causing a lot of her problems right now with their bad behavior. I stopped the meeting right there and asked the boys to go to their room for a minute.

Classic signs of MLC and you handled this appropriately. This is VERY DESTRUCTIVE to your children.....

Mules...I am going to tell you something that someone posted to me very shortly after I arrived here in '06. This is NOT going to be over for a long time and you are in for a ride. I caution you NOT to get 'early euphoria or success'. I"m sorry...I don't want to be a party pooper not come across as 'ye of little faith'. I only wish to help you, if I can, and spare you any pain..if that is possible...by having been thru this myself.

My thread was placed in the inspirational column here in Dec. 06 for saving my M, and, I guess for being a 'model DB'er'. I am now filed for D. I would only recommend what everyone else is saying here:
-this appears to be MLC
-protect your children..be there emotionally for them
-do not expect this to be over soon
-DO expect that there is a high risk for an EA/PA
-detach, but, do so lovingly and this is NOT EASY to do

Caution, mules, caution.

Supporting you.
FIB