Of COURSE she blew up. I told you she would. Why did you announce your attention to move back in? Just DO IT, and then stand in the face of her bluster when she blows.
You did NOT "blow it." THIS, my friend, is the FIRST courageous, correct thing you've done (other than pre-announcing your intentions to her). Stand your ground, and play the script the way Mark has laid it out so well.
As Nick Nolte says at the end of that great movie, "North Dallas Forty":
