I was trying to understand all this. I was very confused when it was dropped on me,,, didnt see anything coming. I want nothing more then my wife in my life. I will do whatever it takes and she knows that,,,, now its her believing or trusting this and getting her to believe our marriage is worth fighting for and having the chance to make it better. Divorce or running away is not the answer at least how I see it and hope she sees that as well.
My w says she loves me and cares deeply, but shut down has unintentionally happened. She needs space and only way we can do this is by her llviing somewhere else while she works on her stuff and me mine, and giving that breathing room and then begin to rebuild. The outcome obviously is unknown,,, the positve is she is not saying anything about ending this. Wants to go to couselling together and separate.
Some of the issues that have built up is the blended family, dealing with ex wife, issues with my sisterinlaw, and a mother who means well but interferes to much. I know she is only trying to help but it makes my w feel like she is not good enough or able to do this stuff. I finally told her to back off a few wks ago, and will make that very clear in coming wks.
