I don't know what to say Cookie, other than I can feel your confusion and pain coming through the screen. I understand your fear of him leaving...man...I do. I haven't had the hurdles that you have had....at least not in the way you have, so I almost feel guilty for relating to this...its like I don't feel like I have a reason to pin my fears on.
I think it sounds like you are struggling with how much you should let out and let him know? Are you worried that he's going to snap with his good behaviour? That he can't keep it going forever? How do you feel about him? Maybe it's better to focus on how you feel about him...
I want tohelp but I'm not sure what to say.
** Purple
As soon as you trust yourself you will know how to live. Goethe