Saw your post. Yeah yeah yeah, we all suck at relationships, sometimes they're great, others times not so good.. unless you both work on and are committed to them.
He can blame you all he wants but the only one responsible for his happiness is the face he sees in the mirror. Blaming you is a way of avoiding looking at himself.
Was he bully... were you passive.. does it matter in the here and now? My answer.. nope. What happened in the past is the past. Only by focusing on the present and moving forward can you have positive change.
I'm learning all the time about the ways spouse would manipulate me to get what he wanted. As I learn each one, I feel better about myself because I don't fall for it.
Love yourself, be good to you.. let go of filtering your life through his eyes.. and stand proud for the wonder that is you!
