Sometimes someone will say they are giving up because they are frustrated. We're sorry to see them suffer or are tired of hearing them not make headway.
That is not the time to encourage them to leave or support a decision to divorce. There are so many other options.
Sometimes its just time they need to regroup, to learn to do things differently.
Sometimes it's hurt and/or bitterness setting in.
These are the times to help them heal those things, look at the situation differently (an ACT AS IF) and/or soften their hearts.
SG - I've been trying so many different things to save my M. Other than prayer what is left for me to do? When I'm nice I'm walked on. When I'm angry she's hurt and I'm the bad guy. When I say quick statements of how I feel she picks and chooses what I say to make her arguments.
In the same month she forgot my B-day and our wedding anniversary. When I bought my own B-day cake she said it's going to be my fault if D10 grows up with a screwed up childhood. I bought my W some flowers and a card for our anniversary. She got me nothing and it didn't bother me.
She went on a weekend trip on the July 4th weekend and I had D10. She called once to say she got there safe. After that she didn't call. Our D kept asking me when Mom was going to call. I didn't have an answer b/c my W told me she didn't have good reception. When I told D10 to call her mom's cell and leave a message her mom answered. It made me look like a real jackass. My W is good to everyone else but her family.
She thinks she's a good mother to D10 and I can't tell you how she behaves when I'm not around. All I can tell you is I know I'm a good dad.
I don't want a D - I'm taking my M vows seriously and hoping something happens. But what is there left for me to do?
