I agree with Lodo....the transition is tough. I think it is tough because you already had set dreams. I know that I had dreams of having children with H (last fall we talked about starting to try in 2008). I have to let go of that dream and starting making new ones. The first one for me is to re-decorate my house. I always let H do the decorating because he was good at it, but some of the choices he made weren't what I liked. So the house is mine and the bedroom will soon be yellow (and not from him smoking in there...because I am painting it!)

What are you going to do??

Me-31 H-38
M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs
No kids
Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06
Found out about OW 12-24-07
Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08
OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08
OW is back 4-19-08
H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08
Filed for divorce 6-5-08
Divorced 7-2-08