You NEED to feel relief. I think that's the hardest transition to make, though. We're so busy DBing that when it finally ends, it's hard to move on and seek our own happiness. But there's no reason why we shouldn't - in fact, we should be FOCUSING on that, not our WAS. Why should they get all the pleasure and we have nothing but pain?
Map out your dream life. Be prepared for the fact that you won't have a straight line towards happiness, but as long as you embrace life and approach things with the same power you've brought to bear to your M, you'll do great!
So, what is the first dream? I love to travel but have always been nervous to do it alone. I'm heading to Scotland next month - don't know how it'll go, but why not try?
BTW, I read Time Traveler's Wife - I'd definitely have to classify that as chick lit.
