From what I am reading the moment we drop the rope is when things actually start to have a chance...oddly enough.
I know for a fact when my attitude changed, H's did too. I never once told him "I was done, I have stopped fighting". My actions said it all. He became very friendly, SO much less defensive. He never knew what to expect from me (tears today? anger? fake happiness?). After Jan/Feb, I was really at peace and didn't fake it. That's when he really believed. Deep down, I know he loves me, but I knew that he wasn't coming back. Nothing will change that. But my new self confidence and the release of his anger has enabled us to be at peace together, and move forward, separately, but with each other's support.
