Yikes! Any way that OM can help her out with her bills? Any way that you can avoid being around her???

Be careful about the money issue. Be sure to ask your lawyer about how much you should be giving her, and if you might be better off only giving her cash so there is no record. She may try and push the alimony amount up to a particular standard of living. You want to try and keep that low.

Don't say "No" just tell her, "I'm sorry, but I have no extra money." Then when she asks you what you are spending it all on say your girlfriend. Hee hee!!!! Only kidding!!! Do not say that last part!!! \:\)

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