You are so obsessed with this that I don't think you can see clearly.

Nothing good will come out of this and it will probably blow up in your face.

You are meddling and causing your own problems,and believe me I did this kind of crap also and it backfired.

You are not thinking clearly and maybe you need to step back from this mess before it gets worse.

Unfortunately you have no control over your Husband, there is nothing you can say to the OW that will keep your Husband away from her.

Basically you are trusting the enemy with your game plan and that is just plain foolish nonsense.

I understand that this is your choice, and it is none of my business, but if you could just step away from the situation and allow things to happen on their own, you may end up with a better outcome.

Telling the OW that you are never going to give up on your Husband will make her fight harder for him.

And you really believe that she will never share your conversations with her to your Husband???

Think again.....

There can be no testimony without a test.
I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.