How on earth do you eat 4000 calories everyday? I think I could eat all day and never reach 4000!
Now that being said - I am on 1400 a day, working out for two months and even though my clothes are fitting better - I have yet to lose a single pound! I am slowly ramping up my workout - in hopes of losing an ounce a month.
I do follow your posts and don't have much to say. It is clear you are on a track. You aren't happy about what you have to do - but have the mindset to do what is right for you and your kids.
And it sounds like you are getting better at setting boundaries and asking for what you want. Such simple easy sounding steps - but oh so very hard to implement.
Life isn't always fair. And unfortunately sometimes we just have to deal with it and go through it to get where we need to go. And sometimes when you get through it - you find that life isn't so bad after all - that you are exactly where you want and need to be in life.