I saw my friend nocode made the move from Infidelity to here, so I had to follow.
H and I are in mediation. Second big long appt tomorrow morning actually. My story is typical. Was told how miserable H was and was blindsided by an A all last summer (my H and a married friend of mine).
Fought like heck to keep us together in Fall 07. Gave up and gave myself and H peace around the holidays of last year. H's A fell apart about the time I dropped the rope, ironically. But he still wants to be single. Married OW is crazy by the way. Way crazy. H sees this now.
We have 2 beautiful daughters and I am grateful he continues to be the amazing father he always has been. I will never fight him on time with the girls, ever. We both work demanding law enforcement jobs, always on call, never work the same hours, so it will be up to us to set the visitations with the girls.
I am refinancing our family home in my own name, paying H his part of the equity. He will find a home of his own soon.
I am mostly at peace with the whole thing. My heart breaks for the girls. They don't know yet, even though H moved out in February. They are used to being with just one of us, and H being gone before they wake up. We are going to tell them together soon. OUCH.
SallyM is a good friend of mine, and she thought it would be helpful to move here to Surviving, to prove to myself that life will not only go on, but be wonderful. Thanks!
