My question is - if it is not mutual, why say it is? I understand the "high road" and everything else, but I am having trouble seeing how that is what is best for YOU.
Hi lost
Well it is mutual in the fact that H was saying he didn't think he could be married to anyone anymore and once he gave me the history, I didn't think I could be married to him either. If he told me everything but wanted to stay married then I would have given it a shot.
If I'd've insisted that we try to work things out, he would have miserably conceeded, and then done very badly.
So I did take part in it to some degree. Although it wasn't really much of a choice...
And to say it was all his idea would open up a huge can of worms with people wanting to know what has gone on... he'd just run away, he really would.
Me:36 M:16 D final: 08/09 Ds:10&5 Ss:8&3 Bomb 3xPA 200 sexual encounters 15/06/08
