Are you still questioning if you should go forward with the S/D? what choice has he left you? none.
It's one thing to agree that you have to separate, but when it actually starts to happen you start to panic. He's looking at flats, staying over where he works 4 nights this week, starting to meet up with other women. It's like some horrible thing unfolding before my eyes - but I don't have a choice. I am still questioning in a way - but questioning what??!! He's already long gone.
Why am I even agonising over 6 women or 26 women? It is over. This has been my problem all along though, I haven't had the infidelity addressed at all because the R has finished.
We are telling the children this weekend, and then our parents. It is going to be very difficult because if we want H to keep any sort of relationship with either set of parents we aren't going to be able to tell them much. My mum would never speak to him again and give me grief for the next 10 years (she's not a christian, doesn't really understand the concept of forgiveness :)), I think his parents would have a heart attack. So all we are going to say is we are splitting up and it is mutual and amicable.
What else can I say without ruining all that we are trying to achieve for the children?
Me:36 M:16 D final: 08/09 Ds:10&5 Ss:8&3 Bomb 3xPA 200 sexual encounters 15/06/08
