I was under the understanding you were being "friends". That bit about the underwear wasn't too "friendly" if you ask me. You handled it well...I'd have probably bit her head off right back. Several things to keep in mind in your new life: 1) She gave up the right to talk to you in that manner with the divorce papers. Politely get off the phone. What's she going to do? Divorce you?
2) You aren't the one that has to win her back. Be the best you can be, and then it's up to her to win YOU back, if she's ever going to want to.
3) Make sure that when you have the kids that it's as much like having two homes as possible. The underwear thing was ridiculous. Since my kids were little, they have always essentially had two houses of clothes that rotated around. They didn't bring a bag or clothes with them....the clothes they wear from their mom's are washed and put in the closet at my house.
You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with. Dr. Wayne Dyer
