Well I guess my questionis should I confront her with this. I just want to tell her that I am not going to be a doormat that she can just walk all over! I do love my W, but these actions are disgusting and I will not stand for it not only on my part but what she is doing to our family!
Certainly do not be in any hurry to confront her on these things. Use the time by yourself now to clear out your head. This is going to be valuable time for you (more than you know) and you need to seize the terrific oprtunity that is staring you in the face. Being "down in the dumps" won't do you an ounce of good. The one who is really and truly "down in the dumps" is your W. Granted, she is completely oblivious to this but she is spiralling downward very rapidly and as we all know a "freefall" is always met with an abrupt conclusion. This is very sad for her. That said, your sharp focus needs to be solely on yourself right now and for the next couple of weeks. And while I hear you saying that you have a shortage of friends in your area, be sure to get together with the one's you do have and have some fun. And we are supposed to be looking to acquire new friends through the entire course of our life so be sure and operate that way also.
Originally Posted By: jonzy
I am desprate to know how to go about this. Or should I just ride the storm and go dark and see if anything changes?
My fellow namesake friend, you have no choice but to ride this storm out just as if you were at sea and a huge storm blew up. Batton down the hatches and ride it out. I do not know how much of a prayerful man you currently are. If you are interested in knowing the best way to get yourself through this storm and the next one, and the next one ...... it is through prayer. A relationship with the Father is all you will need. That is what prayer is all about, relating to/with him.
Keep in touch and God bless you. I hope this has helped a little.
Brian: I am going to try my hardest at riding this storm out and not reacting to the sitch. It just tears me apart knowing that she could do this. I am not uhow to approch her with the boundaries. Do I say anything to her or just keep them internal to myself? And for the snooping part I quit that a while ago, but the note was in plain view on the bathroom floor and the receipt was in a bag I was going to throw away. So much for being nice to help outthe D:(
Tomato: I have never really been a spiritual person, but during this time I have spoken to the Man upstairs quite a bit. I am thinking of going back to church to see if I can ask for forgiveness from Him, for the man I have become and for the things I have done. It also wouldn't be a bad idea to ask for forgiveness for my W as well and hope that maybe He can guide her to the correct path. I need all the support I can get right now so maybe this is something I need to do for me!
