You are one person I was so hoping to hear from. I know that you continued to ML and allow your H to go back & forth b/w you and OW. And here is my dilemma: clearly H is still very much attracted to me, but I had drawn a line in the sand to say that I would not have a physical (or pretty much any other) R w/ him until he figured out what he wants.
That said, if I push him away, will he go to OW? Or will he say "Wow, I may lose FA completely if I don't get my crap together soon." I'm pretty sure that as long as OW knows I am still part of H's life in that way, it will drive her crazy. I just don't know if I can keep from going crazy myself. I feel in my heart that it's only a matter of time b/f OW gives up - just how much time and will I last that long. Your detachment in your sitch was remarkable. How did you do it? What did you tell yourself to help you deal w/ it?
By the way, I think you are spot on with your "perfect opportunity/natural opening" advice. This is something I have been trying to do more of.
FA
What does not destroy me, makes me stronger.
FA:43, H:42 D:7 M:10 yrs, T:24 yrs EA:?, PA:1/06 S:3/07 EA/PA ongoing Aborted attempt to move home 07/08
