Sedona is supposed to be a very nice area. It's at a bit higher elevation, so it is cooler. I think that those two things translate into more dollars! There's a surprise! I've never been there, so I can't really say much else about it,
Tucson has several resorts, this is the time of year to get a bargain, but of course, the trade-off is that it is pretty toasty!
For something a bit different, there is this: http://www.tvgr.com/ I've been there for a couple of company events, it is in an attractive area, and has character.
I have not been to any of them, but I haven't heard anything bad about them. There are others, too.
Of course, I think it would be great if you came to Tucson! But, if you came to Sedona, I think I'd figure out how to get up there to say hello, anyway!
Maybe this can work to chip away at the wall, maybe she'll get angry and throw it back in your face, who knows. They sell entire printed coupon books for lovers at drugstore or bookstores - includes coupons for things like a car wash, massage, night on the town, breakfast in bed, etc. What I've found useful is to shop carefully for something personal they said they really "needed" (make that "wanted") - I do this with my D12 now with very good results. - she wanted a good quality sweatshirt with the logo of our local university and I could see how happy she was to get it.
I did something like that, years ago, to little or no effect. But, perhaps it is time to have another run at something like that. What's the worst thing that could happen? She'd completely disconnect, and move out of our room? Oh, wait, that's already been done!
Three goals: 1. I would like a hug to be returned, or even initiated by her! 2. I would like her to say goodnight before she disappears. 3. I would like a kiss. (ok that might not be small, or attainable)
Being quite new to your thread Jeff I'm really interested in how you came up with these and why. I'm trying to set some goals at the moment so would be really interested in your thoughts.
There have been some really good ideas coming from this, I really like Michelle's idea about the coupon book.
Thinking about the goodnight one, which to me seems the easiest to achieve, what is the usual scenario for bedtime?
If you don't want to do this now no problem just say, it's just you sparked my interest
I guess the goal that fits above all of those would be to have some indication that she even cares. Those goals would just be ways that I could see it.
As far as bedtime goes, imagine two people living in separate houses. You are getting pretty close to how we do things!
Just one more thing, focusing on the bedtime goal, have you taken any steps with this? Also, are you usually in the same room before she goes to bed and she just gets up and leaves or are you in separate rooms doing your own thing?
You know, and this is just me, if I were you I would not do the note thing tomorrow. Leave them up there though. Let her wonder, you don't want to bombard her and for her to get to the rolling the eyes stage. Keep it fresh...
I actually had to do work at work this afternoon. Or at least the guy that needed help thought I did! I think a managed to make a pretty believable story where the problem he saw wasn't his fault, or my fault! So that was a good thing! Then I got home, ate, and went to the store for cat litter, since tomorrow is trash day! I still need to make use of it, I don't really like that job! But, I like the cat!
I haven't written anything on the mirror tonight, I probably won't W and the little kids are watching a movie, enjoying the last week they have off of school. So, I will probably be asleep before they are!
Bedtime routine.... I used to seek W out before I went to bed, up until a few months ago. I'd say goodnight, and get a very negative-ish response. So, I've stopped. She rarely, if ever says goodnight to me. Sometimes I'll say goodnight to whoever is in the family room when I go to bed, which might include W, and she might say something. I would like her to actually look for me, and say goodnight, without me prying it out of her. And, I'd like to see pigs fly.
(((Jeff))) here is a suggestion. Take a break from the mirror for a day or two and watch her reaction...
Does your W even speak to you?
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
