Once in therapy we had a therapist that recommended giving up sex for awhile, but do loving things like take turns giving each other back rubs. Go on dates together as friends. Sometimes this can turn up the sexual tension in a good way. Talk with the doc today so you can treat the depression. You might want to mention going on a low dose to avoid loss of sexual drive (not that that's an issue right now, but it can be a potential problem for some people).
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
