Rob, I think you have to sit down aqnd have a real honest talk with yourself! A few weeks ago , when you were feeling down, you said, "I don't want to paint my house, I don't want to sell me house and I don't want to get a divorce" It seems now that you feel your W may be softening you are taking on a role of power again, saying things like, she can't just come back and have all forgiven. When she stated that you never said you loved her, well. if you do, why don't you just say it! With all due respect for DB method sometimes honesty is the best. Several months ago when my husband was living outside the home and we were having a very acrimonious email discussion, I got a call from a close friend. Told her what was happening and she said stop now! email him this if it is the truth " I love you and am willing to do whatever it takes for us to be together, are you?' I worried he would think I was insane because we were in the middle of a huge argument, but I did it anyway. he didn't answer but he came home. Sure it would have been better if we worked at things first but that wasn't going to happen, it was just going to escalate. Things are not yet settled but there is improvement.
