I won the battle. I hope I survive the war.

[Phoenixdeux]

Kev,

I'm happy for you. Don't worry about the kids. You can have the opportunity to explain it to them. This wasn't their desire...it was their mom's desire for them and they probably felt only bad for their mom's sake. And besides, they shouldn't change it because it's only a matter of time before she divorces husband #2 as well. Then what will your kids do? Hyphenated with the name of husband#3 as well. I'd have told the judge, "the way my ex-W thinks about the disposability of marriage, I don't want my kids to end up with a half dozen hyphenated names." :P

What's new in the girl realm? Any bright new prospects?

[Committed2Him]

Just sitting here drinking coffee and watching all the women in my life stomp my little fragile heart into a million pieces.

Typical eh? Women, can't live with them...can't live with them! LOL!!!!

Dawg,

I echo Bethie's sentiments (the sane ones). The kid will understand, down the road, (if they don't get it now) that they are YOUR kids not Mr. hyphenation's!

A father's unconditional love will always win out in the end.

Also, DB 101 applies here as well "believe 1/2 of what you see and none of what you hear." That is, sure X makes it seem like this is what the kids want, "Buffalo chip!!!!!"

You done good buddy, inspite of what the insensitive types may be saying behind your back and even in your face on your very own thread!

You've got sack! (LOL! just what the laddies wanted to read )

[The_Colorado_Bulldog]

Maybe its the year of the Bulldog, huh?

Gabe,

Ah, yes! Methinks I like the sound of that and would be a welcome change of pace from the "Year of the Cruel, Heartless, Self-Absorbed, Low Self-Esteem, Narcissistic Colorado Tart Shrew".

Plus, easier to say.

God, do I sound bitter! Really not.

[The_Colorado_Bulldog]

Wes,


Thanks for the kind words. I've already had an opportunity to explain to D5. But, I didn't really say anything. D5 makes statements about things, in this case the name change hearing, that are really questions in which she is seeking reassurement. All I could do is say yes to her statement that the judge said they couldn't change their names because I still don't think her level of understanding is sophisticated enough to discern the complexities of the subject.

I think the kids DO want to change their names but due to their confusion about the sitch.

One thing that came out in the cross exam of XW was that the kids had asked her if Numbnutz was going to be their new dad and she told them yes. So I think they have lingering confusion about stuff. But, I have to continue to deal with the prospect that the kids are closer to and identify more with their stepfather than they seem to with me.

I don't wish for them to divorce because I do want her to find hapiness and I want to transcend above all that happened in the past to be a better man. But sometimes, I really do wish that their R would implode so that I could get him out of their livesn though he treats them well. Although, is he really treating them well by being complicit in a overt attempt to minimize my R with my kids? One could make the argument he's being abusive by being party to mindfncking them with XW.

Been in phone discussions and on a date with this gal. We both have busy schedules so we haven't gotten together since the firtst time. Know someone to hook me up with?

[ALL6785]

Hey Dawg!

Woo Hoo!

and that's all I have to say about that.

[Phoenixdeux]

I really do wish that their R would implode so that I could get him out of their livesn though he treats them well. Although, is he really treating them well by being complicit in a overt attempt to minimize my R with my kids? One could make the argument he's being abusive by being party to mindfncking them with XW.

I agree. He's an accomplice to this, I doubt willingly. He should be striving to be their friend...not their father. They have one, and I think he's a good one. When you were trying to reconcile with your wife, I had no idea she was such an evil person. She wasn't good enough for you.

Know someone to hook me up with?

Yes, D's friend. She's nice and she's cute and I don't think she's a beatch. But she lives here...so that's a problem. We will be in Denver next month. Are you even close anymore?

[FiatLux]

Know someone to hook me up with?

I got nothing. There are a lot of scantily clad 18 yo's walking around campus again, but I doubt you'd have an interest in them, given your cerebral nature. BTW, they seem to have surrendered the plumber's crack look this season for the derriere hanging out of short-shorts. Who starts these fads, and what do their parents think. [I cringe thinking of what will be in style for S8's young adulthood.]

However, Kev, I'd stay very confident about your permanence as their father. Their questions to you might be communications based more on fear that you will acquiesce your important role in their lives.

Every frigging time your beautiful children share their fears about you quitting as their dad and letting a sham artist take over, I do hope you affirm very lovingly but very clearly that you will ALWAYS be their father, and that no one will ever replace you. You will ALWAYS be their dad.

That's been written and bound in heaven, my friend. No one on earth can undo that.

Happy 4th of July!!

FL

[BethM]

BTW, they seem to have surrendered the plumber's crack look this season for the derriere hanging out of short-shorts. Who starts these fads

I don't know where that stuff starts. (Is there a draft in here? I must be sitting on an air vent or something)

[quote]Every frigging time your beautiful children share their fears about you quitting as their dad and letting a sham artist take over, I do hope you affirm very lovingly but very clearly that you will ALWAYS be their father, and that no one will ever replace you. You will ALWAYS be their dad.

Exactly! Every kid needs to know, whether you live with them or not, that they are the most important person in the world to us. We owe it to them to give them that kind of security and unconditional love!

That's been written and bound in heaven, my friend. No one on earth can undo that.

Gabe, I love this!

Kev,

Hope your trip and holiday went well and that you had a great time! Did you dress appropriately Mister?

Love,
Bethie

[The_Colorado_Bulldog]

Dawg,

I echo Bethie's sentiments (the sane ones). The kid will understand, down the road, (if they don't get it now) that they are YOUR kids not Mr. hyphenation's!

A father's unconditional love will always win out in the end.

Also, DB 101 applies here as well "believe 1/2 of what you see and none of what you hear." That is, sure X makes it seem like this is what the kids want, "Buffalo chip!!

You've got sack! (LOL! just what the laddies wanted to read )

C2H,

Thanks, I try to remember patience when it comes to dealing with this issue. The kids just don't understand due tp their age.

And, you're right. It is horse hockey that the kids want to change their names. I mean they do, but XW testified in court under oath that she told them NH/OM is their new dad when asked by the kids early on in their R. I wonder how confused the kids must be about all of this. Time will tell.

Oh, for you're enjoyment. I prayed the stuffing out of three psalms before the hearing and I'll be damned if things didn't turn out TO THE LETTER of what was offered up in those prayers. God works miracles. You just have to pay attention and notice it when He does. And, also realize that sometimes the answer is no if you don't get what you pray for.

Sitting here with my "sack". It's all I have left. XW got the contents in the D.

[The_Colorado_Bulldog]

Hey Dawg!

Woo Hoo!

and that's all I have to say about that.

ALL,

You're a man of few words and even less clothing.

I get the sentiment. Thank You.