(((((Addie))))) The email and phone call sound so wonderful. I'm sure once he comes out of the tunnel he'll do what's necessary to enter into your lives 100% again.
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
addie, stay strong now. He is finally getting it. Be positive, think positive. Forget you are tired. DB the best you can. You are almost there, in piecing... Love K
I ask not for a lighter burden, but for broader shoulders ____________________________________________________ M 46 H 45 D 17 M/T 23 Bomb #1 (ILYBNILWY) 12.06 Bomb #2 (OW) 12.07 Bomb #3 (chose OW over M) 9.08
Hi everyone - thanks for your comments but it will be a long time before I'm in Piecing. In spite of the beautiful things H has said to me, he continues to pursue OW and is now hanging out with 20 year olds (males and females). Every time I mention things that need to be addressed (restoring trust, looking at why all this happened, setting boundaries, etc), it pushes H to contact OW, former EA, possibly other females on dating sites. He is telling me one thing and doing another. This is so not the man I've known for so many years. I'm feeling like the first time I found out about OW. I don't know how I can ever heal from one betrayal after another.
Me47 H46 S13 M16 Piecing since May/09
"Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it." Lou Holtz
Be careful. He has got to be trying to prove to you that he is being truthful and committed. It sounds like he really means what he says but wants to keep all of his options open. How can you deal with that type of baggage?
Thanks Eagle. I'm not sure how he can prove to me that he is being honest when we're living 2500 miles apart. Of course, this is what I would want but how do we achieve that under the circumstances. Although I believe he is sincere in what he's written to me, you're right, he's keeping his options open. One of the recurring themes that keeps coming up in his emails to me since before the end of PA is how lonely he is. And right now he must be feeling extremely lonely: no family, no friends, no OW.
Me47 H46 S13 M16 Piecing since May/09
"Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it." Lou Holtz
I don't advocate confronting him, but in the event you feel you can't hold back any longer, maybe you should limit what you call him on to just the stuff you found in public forums like My Space and Face Book, junk he put out there in plain sight.
His world is falling apart, right now he is just flailing.
Sorry, I guess I misunderstood. The dating site is a bit different, but you could have found him in there independently, I suppose. Just don't want him to be able to accuse you of snooping again.
Andabelle, thanks for stopping by. I've been wondering how you are doing.
I haven't confronted yet but I was thinking about doing so with the cell records. The bill actually comes to me and there are recent calls on there to OW but possibly confront about FB later on since it's a public space and anyone could come across it. Since H brought up honesty and trust in our R, I want to bring this out into the open because I can't just ignore all the dishonesty. He's telling me one thing and doing another. He is really desperate for attention. Don't these 20 year olds find it odd that a 45 year old man is hanging out with them?
Me47 H46 S13 M16 Piecing since May/09
"Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it." Lou Holtz
