It seems that he needs someone who he respects, but that also respects him??? Definitely keep your boundaries firm, but start occasionally finding something to complement him on?
I think you're right on about this SD, it's definitely shifting the R into what's required of him, & not just whether he decides he might want to come back to the M.
Funny how noticeable & immediate the shift was....I was remiss in not enforcing boundaries earlier.
Nothing has been mentioned about "The Offer" Dave, I'm detecting regret that he gave it to me. Similar to those who have given their WA's the DB book in the beginning, or some that have filed quickly themselves (& changed their minds).
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You make me feel like we were all lil DB angels sitting on your shoulder.. being there for you as this was going on.
When I first came upon this site I had no idea that there would be angels sitting on my shoulder. What a blessing it is! Thanks Gypsy!
Nice to hear from you WAW, I'll be over to visit you soon. It does help to look at different sitch's & perspectives, doesn't it!
Had a really fine 4th weekend. Actually, it started on Thursday with the arrival of my x-sister-in-law, & her BF, & continued until last night.
H came to drop off S5 @ 6pm & was supposed to leave & come back that night to meet us for the fireworks. We had an enormous feast laid out (SIL is Greek, there can never be too much), friends dropping by & plenty of merriment going around. He pulled up a bar stool & never left. We all had a great time, although I kept my distance.
The next day he made plans with all of us & wouldn't take no for an answer easily. Sorry, you checked out of the family H.
Enforced my boundaries all weekend, with escalating pressure from him to drop them & roll over. He called over & over, & came by needing something or other, acting as if nothing was amiss.
He's amazingly persistent, reminds me of Ari Gold on Entourage.
Looks like he's trying to get things back in his comfort zone.
