JL, Well, I finally made it over here as promised!
I hope you're feeling a bit better today. And oh how well I know what you're going through. Been there, done that, and I know my rollercoaster ride is far from over. Although I feel calm right now, and I'm not depressed. I'm feeling too detached right now. And that's good.
I never thought I'd reach this total detachment. But after my H called the cops on me, that was the end result. I was livid for most of that day and crying, b/c I couldn't believe he'd done that, esp. in front of that slut. Showed me just how much he cares about me. And just a few hours earlier he'd told me he'd always be there for me.
Lies, lies, lies...the lies roll off their tongues so smoothly, don't they? You have to detach, detach, detach. It's easier said than done. I found it was a process. When I finally realized I was detaching, it was such a great feeling. And now this total detached feeling I've had since Friday is the best thing that's happened to me in a year and a half since this mess started.
I guess the best thing you can do is just leave him alone. Let him hang out to dry, twisting in the wind. If you don't, he might stay in the tunnel longer. I'm trying sooooooo hard to learn to be patient. That's what everyone says we have to do. And it has never been one of my virtues. But I'm trying.
I wish you luck and I'll swing back by to see how you're doing, ok? And thanks for stopping by my thread.
