ok, first thing is that it is great to see you are being honest with yourself.
I am not saying he was with OW, but you have to assume he was so you don't get blindsided anymore.
Last time i read your post he was sleeping on your couch...even if he has'nt slept there in three days...men should NOT be calling you THREE DAYS after your H left ok? You are just very vulnerable right now and we are all worried you are going to make some impulsive choices you are going to regret later.
Anyways, "good listeners" are also good readers of indicators...he's not a good listener, he's a dangerous predator right now...dont' fall for the charming "if you ever need to talk" BS...that's what my W fell prey to...someohow "listening" ends up being "hit on her while she's alone, upset, hurt, and confused becuase she will do anything to escape feeling that way"
Don't trust that "talk" and "lisenting" BS..its a pick up line for marital predators.
i get the comment now, i had to read it a few times. lol
At least you understnad now that its a hurtful game he's playing with you...he wants you angry...it tells him he still has control over you and he can hurt you. He's misreable and he just wants you to join him there for company.
Don't play it.
ACT as if you DON'T CARE my dear..if you really want to get at him...act as if you dont care, THAT is what will burn him the most.
You think flinging an insult at the OW hurts him, but it actually just strokes his ego..it makes you look jealous, look like you love him, and look like a child.
He loves turning you into a jealous, lovesick, child...don't let him. This is just how he feeds his ego.
If you read "The Relationship Rescue" from Dr Phil he talks about ten ways people contaminate their relationships...I think the "Bottomless Pit" fits him well...they just make everyone around them miserable by manouvering everyone they interact with into stroking their ego. They will resort to insults and hurtful behaviour to get their partner to make them feel better or reassure them that they are worthless.
These types of people just have a huge chip on their shoulder telling them they are crap and they act out on other people...its very destructive to a relationship.
Anyways...you know the best way to get back at him is to ignore him..he's going to bait you, dont play the fish. Just ignore it and bask at how mature you are behaving in comparison to his silly games.
