I just lost a two paragraph post I was typing...no idea how, computers just hate me sometimes.
Let's see if I can remember any of it: Oh yes, do check out Shay5's thread, her sitch is at a more similar place and shares the element of "he's here, he's gone etc".
I will give you a warning: many of us are much further along the piecing road...don't make direct comparisons to your sitch and wonder why you and your H "don't do that, or feel that way" (Thinking of Pam's H there).
If you could read some of my earlier threads! OY (there's an earlier one on p3 here which has a link to the previous one...but that trail will only take you back to Feb).
For the LOONGEST time after the bombs, my H didn't want to go out with me. At least not anywhere that "the others" might be. He was afraid of judgement, embarassed by what he'd done...I went to our New Year's Party alone...he didn't tell me until the very last minute that he wasn't going..."Because I don't feel like it" (sarcastic, hurtful tone).
Happened lots of times until slowly things improved with us and it became apparent to him that NO ONE was holding this against him (or at least not overtly!). My folks too gave him a hug and kiss the first time they saw him after "the bomb". I was SOOOO glad to read that in your post.
So I hate to say it, but welcome to limbo. How long your H will wander the sands of MLC, no one knows. But the fact that there ARE visible improvements (and there ARE), and he is seeing a C is very good.
