Rusty, I don't know about dating. I haven't dated either...just don't want to, or something. Maybe it's an excuse, to keep from having to get out there.
I would say that the better thing to do is to GAL and focus on that. Where do you want your life to go, and how will you get it there? If your H never comes back, do you want to be still wondering how you should live your life?
Think back to how you were before you met your husband. What dreams did that Rusty have? What are some things you like to do that maybe you have put aside because of raising kids, etc. Now is the time to seek out those pastimes and rekindle your interest in them.
It may not bring your H back, but it will make you a much more positive person. Do not rely on others to make you happy. Happiness has to come from within you.
I know you know all this, I'm not trying to lecture you, but I think you're thinking that falling in love with someone else will fix everything, and really, love should be the icing on the cake to a great life you are excited to live, with or without someone.
Keep going to social events, make FRIENDS, and eventually, you'll know whether or not to move on. Friends are a better stepping stone then a new relationship.
Married: 25 years Separated: 5 years Kids: 2, ages 21 and 24 Me: 53 H: 50
