Separated 5 years.

[Rusty]

MP53 - can you afford a trip? If so, I would do it!!! I would love to take one too, but can't afford it. I am planning to go to my Dad's family reunion in two weeks and REALLY want to go to my 30th HS Reunion in three (it is about 12 hours away by car), but there is hotel, food, gas, ect - and without any real job on the horizon right now, don't think it would be a good expenditure of my money. But if you can swing it - I say go for it.
do some soul searching, etc. and come back with a fresh perspective on everything.

As for seeming pitiful - don't even think that. The pitiful one is your H, who obviously doesn't want to let go finally or he would have filed himself. If he wanted the D, he would have gotten it by now. You may be right that now he is seeing someone and he feels guilty for talking with you. I see some of that myself. Like when my H and I ML the time before this last time, I got the sense that he thought he was cheating on someone. I find that ironic since we are still married, and I may be all wrong, but he acted so weird after.

I have always told my H that he was the one that wanted this, I did not, so he would have to go get the D himself. He is such a procrastinator and never follows through on things, that I can pretty much be assured it won't happen. If it does, I will definitely know there is OW.

DO THE TRIP!!! GREAT IDEA - 180~