Hi,
Just read your story sounds alot like mine. My h is renting his own place but, spends most of his time at home.
I know how difficult this is I find it hard to stop all the q's in my head. I have recently read through D/R which has kept me focused but, sometimes I feel like screaming and you know what I scream! so go ahead it helps.
I had to finally look and go you know it is not fair that he had the A and I feel like I am doing all the work or he gets to come and go as he pleases,but right now that is the way it is and I am sure he is having a hard time with it as well. We can't control how they feel we can only try to make ourselves happy and "act as if" I am sure you know all this all ready. Just wanted you to know I understand how you feel. Hang in there and go ahead and scream every know and then.