I agree with your list, but think it's missing two essential items:
-- While you are an adult and I cannot force you to do anything, I do have a few personal boundaries that are essential to my own emotional well-being. I would ask that you respect them while we are still married.
and
-- My patience is not without its limits. I pray you'll make the choice to come back and work on our marriage very soon, before what's left of my love for you wanes.
KEEP ALL OF YOUR OPTIONS ON THE TABLE, even if you have no immediate plans to use them.
