Trouble on the lake erie shore #3

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one thing i'm trying to figure out is how to tell her about some of my discoveries during therapy. Like i understand now where some of my behaviors came from......but i don't want ot seem like i'm making excuses or explaining away them....

I'm no expert, but I would forget about TELLING her about your discoveries, at least at this point. She isn't interested in HEARING about these great things you've unearthed. She needs to SEE changes.

And.....it's not about you. It's about her. Trust me, I get mad at myself when I really think back to conversations and how much they seem to revolve around me and my feelings. Don't make the same mistakes I've made in that respect. She will only withdraw more if after a short period of time, you start selling something to her she isn't ready to buy.