Hope4us struggle, part 6

[Hope4us]

Thanks Pup, SG.

Not a real opportunity to initiate anything yet. Went to the picnic yesterday and had a great time. S16 was really disappointed WW didn't go along. He sent her a text telling her so and she just replied "sorry". He then sent her another rippin into her about her selfishness, how serious he was about moving with or without her, how it would do us all good to get back to family and real friends, just basically telling her all the stuff she needs to hear that she won't listen to me when I tell her the stuff. I told S16 that you can't make her do anything, that she needs to figure this out on her own and he said, "well, if she can't see how it would be best for us all, we just need to move without her". S16 also got out a lot of frustration he's feeling with his mom and her actions. He's started to put together a lot of things from the past year where she was lying to him also. And I found out that she had asked S16 if he wanted to go to an LSU/Kentucky football game with her and OM back in Oct the one weekend she had taken off to spend it with OM. Just another "script" move. Trying to introduce OM to her kids to complete the fantasy. Uh...that didn't happen and it's probably good for OM because S16 still wants to "freakin kill him".

So we were both expecting her to be in a nasty mood when we got home, but it was quite the opposite. She was better than she's been even the last couple weeks. Talking and engaging and telling me stuff she didn't need to. Sharing stuff that she hasn't shared in almost a year now. And it felt good to have her share those things.

Of course the suspicious me things she's got an agenda for being nice like this, but the other part of me thinks it's been over 3 months now since she claims NC and maybe, just maybe she's getting through WD and is starting to see more clearly.

I won't have a chance to talk to my boss about a transfer probably until Thurs, but that's ok. Give her a chance to come to the conclusion on her own that it would be in all our best interest to move and if she comes to that conclusion on her own, all the better for our marriage/family.

I'm trying to not get my hopes up too high, but it's hard not to. And the fall will be worse if she's just playing us once again, but it's a risk I'm willing to take.