WAW#9 Feelings

[upside_downer]

Phil-

One of the hardest things I've had to accept is that there IS grey. When I was lucky enough to have my W in C with me, our C focused on the way I refused to see anything but yes or no. When asked about whether my W wanted to continue the M, she said maybe.

That would put any of us B&W thinkers into a tailspin, but you know what? They were right....whether we WANT there to be or not, there IS grey, there IS color, and there IS maybe.

It seems your wife sort of fits into that "maybe" a little bit, and you are doing exactly what I did.....forcing her into a "no" because that is the only thing we understand and see.

So....MAYBE you can make this work. That doesn't mean everything goes back to "normal" and life is peachy again. That means MAYBE by doing things differently, you will be able to see something other than yes, and no, black and white. You know that what you had before is gone. And you also know that right now, you have the chance to build something better. I know you can do it.

That choice is up to you, bro.