everhope, her OM is her lifeboat. You are the ship. She's working the ship/lifeboat system. She's scared to be on her own. She couldn't leave you until she found a potential lifeboat.
everhope and smartcookie, i can relate to the 'ship' image - i too 'ran to the lifeboat' when i met OM. Then my H met OW and told me it was over (I was the WAW, see my thread) and i felt like my H was the lighthouse showing the way to the safe harbor, and suddenly he had turned the lighthouse off and i was alone in high seas and it wasn't all that i imagined it would be - uncharted waters with no 'safe harbor' and i realized that this was not the way i wanted to live... My OM said 'so what? you can use the stars to navigate' - lovely image but i wasn't buying it, so i came back and H has come back, sort of, since his PA is an EA now.... and our M is 'work in progress' but he's here with me and we're trying to live together so that's a good start i think! he says i appear very depressed so i'm trying to work on that (psychologist, job change etc).
Hang in there, everhope! it looks like she needs time away from the R before she realizes that your R may be what is best for her. I figured out (after awhile, a few years, and seeing my H with OW) that all my OM resembled H in many ways but he was better... so it took time but i figured it out. Meanwhile unfortunately i've caused a tremendous amount of hurt and that will also take a lot of time to heal - so patience and time are the 2 elements that i need to accept as an essential part of the solution... it can be very very hard at times. bon courage, Mamanpc
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