WAW#9 Feelings

[*KS*Chick*]

Phil -

I have a couple of questions for you. Earlier on your threads, bi-polar was mentioned and you said you were. I am not sure if you were being serious or sarcastic. If you're serious, are you on medication for that? You are all over the place, and you're digging your own grave with this marriage.

Another question - why did you choose the DB board? I mean you hate all of the advice you're given and you already know everything so what exactly do you need the board for? Why do you think you came here originally?

I'm sure you will either ignore this or blow up - whichever works best for you but here goes. It's no wonder she wanted a separation. You don't seem to be too pleasant of a guy to put up with. I see you still put it all on her. You ask what about the vows SHE made? Well Phil, what about the vows YOU made? Love, honor and cherish? It seems like it's still a pissing contest. This can't be handled like kindergarten. You have to make a decision. You have to decide if you want your marriage or you don't.

You seem to be against the whole self reflection thing, taking umbrage when people say you need to change your actions, or work on you. You act as if you have nothing that needs to be changed. Arrogance is NOT an attractive trait......sorry to tell you. And from many of the posts in this thread (and others) you seem to take a holier than thou attitude with her, reminding her of her faults, or things that piss you off. Again - it's no wonder.

If I had a choice of being alone, or getting my nose rubbed in everything I did.....I'd choose alone.

And I agree with those telling you to stop talking. She doesn't want to hear how you love her right now. Words - are dead. Your actions need to show her. Your words are empty when your actions don't match those words.

I hope that you really read this, and don't blow over it or turn it all back on me. I do pray for you Phil - to have your eyes opened. I hope you can save your marriage.