It's a holiday here in the US today, so most of us aren't at work and are doing our own family stuff.
You gonna go work out after work?
It will take time to earn back her trust. You do that by answering her questions honestly, not keeping secrets, and obviously not lying. However, it will take TIME.
You have a ton of opportunities to improve your stitch now while you are living together, just take advantage of them. And hang in there.
hi there happy July 4th! yes i am going to take a catnap and then go workout, after that maybe BBQ with a buddy or 2... or watch a movie with W... we'll see how it plays out
when she asks me questions i do answer honestly... i will never be anything but honest till my dying day, i see what lies do.
Not trying to hijack, sorry if I am, just a question for Dom ; How do i prove I am sorry for the actions i have committed? Is that an answerable question ?
yes you were hijacking :P so i copied this from trixi's thread to yours.
It is always answerable. However, it depends on what exactly your actions WERE. and it also depends on the person you are saying sorry to.
the book "the 5 languages of apology" has some suggestions.
Doesnt work for everyone, though. For example, people who dont believe in ever forgiving anyone. such as my wife :P
In other words.. you can prove you are sorry... and even that you wouldnt do it again... Doesnt neccessarily mean they will care.
But still worth trying.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
Not trying to hijack, sorry if I am, just a question for Dom ; How do i prove I am sorry for the actions i have committed? Is that an answerable question ?
yes you were hijacking :P so i copied this from trixi's thread to yours.
It is always answerable. However, it depends on what exactly your actions WERE. and it also depends on the person you are saying sorry to.
the book "the 5 languages of apology" has some suggestions.
Doesnt work for everyone, though. For example, people who dont believe in ever forgiving anyone. such as my wife :P
In other words.. you can prove you are sorry... and even that you wouldnt do it again... Doesnt neccessarily mean they will care.
But still worth trying.
i think it's too soon, she knows i am sorry but is so pissed at me , if you see the emails i exchanged with W's cousin, she likely loves me but is so mad at me...
i did the apology thing when i was feeling sorry for myself..i will do it again when the time is right and it will be genuinely sincere.
btw i ran 6.5 miles tonight, i am so tired! just had a small chat with my wife and she is making stir fry steak for our week's lunches..
I've heard great things about The 5 Languages of Apology. I may have to check that out myself.
Thanks, i try to do it every other day, i am starting to look and feel the best i have in 10 years +.. i am going to the gym right now.. i know W is getting her hair done, and was making herself pretty when i got home...i won't let it bother me, she is going on girls night tonight.. i am getting my tattoo todasy(yikes wish me luck)..i was supposed to review the D papers today but my friend had something come up .. guess i will read them in my hotel room in Portland tomorrow night ..
a big 180 for me... crazy!!! then tonight i am going with friends to the rodeo.. W is going to girls nite, i am going to guys night, i will get pressured to go meet women i am sure of it...
tattoo went really well..i am proud of myself for doing it. had a great time with my friend last night, i couldn't believe the ladies that said hello to me..
in Portland, Oregon now.. just went and had dinner.. chatted some people up, another 180 for me.. usually in the past i'd be scared of being somewhere new by myself.. i did great but i miss my wife
Thanks, so many new things for me....someone told me it's too bad we are getting D'd.. because it's obvious we both care alot/love each other.. there just might be too much water under the bridge.. i guess the only one that can figure that out is the big guy upstairs and time..
Portland reminds me alot of Seattle.. which is where me and W spent last August long.. watching my beloved Red Sox.. maybe that's why i found it a bit tough walking downtown alone
