I seriously meant (at least, at the time) what I said about posting to him as if he were my h. It would probably end up being not a mature thing to do, but he is being an a$$.
Let it go. There are probably more constructive things you could do right now than to try and reason with Phil. Things like poking a hot stick in your eye or beating your head against a wall come to mind.
You need to concentrate on your situation. Your struggling for answers yourself. Focus on you for now.
"It is curious that physical courage should be so common in the world and moral courage so rare." -Mark Twain
