So I go over and she's out on the deck. She was civil at first and I told her I brought her some money over. I then sat down and told her we needed to talk about some things. I put my had on her back and said, do not take anything I am saying as an attack on you. I am really worried about you. She started getting annoyed and snapped "worried about what" and got up and moved to a chair opposite of me.
I then told her that I felt violated and extremely hurt by what she has been doing. I said, "you filed for support, you said you don;e even want to be my friend and you are out seeing some other guy. That really hurts and it's devastating to go through." She said it's what she wants. She was a total jerk and being spiteful and bringing up all kinds of crap from the past and trying to twist anything I said around back at me.
I told her she needed to wake up to the problems and she said she has not been gambling anymore and said she did not spend that much money, does not neglect the kids etc. Said the kids are treating her terrible because they have seen me in the past treat her terrible. So anything I said she basically turned around to being my fault. Some of the stuff she said was really hurtful.
I told her I could no longer support her financially in anyway. She then said "I can take you to court and get a whole lot more money if I wanted including alimony etc." I said "let me finish, I said I cannot support YOU financially anymore, but I will keep my obligation to the kids" I said I've seen a lot of changes with you and I'm worried about you and the kids. Mentioned the drinking, leaving them home, neglect, always going out the casino etc. She got defensive about everything. I can't even remember everything she said, she was just rambling on about everything ad anything. Saying the new guy never meant to happen and she never got any emotional support from me and on and on.
She said she wants a divorce and it's her time to be happy. Said she was faking it for too long. I even mentioned to her that that's a cop out, I said "geeze, two months ago you were telling me how deeply in love you were falling and wanted to get re-married" and she said it was all fake.
I told her a major reason we keep getting pushed away from each other is because we keep holding this divorce over our heads. I said even in the past when we got back together the divorce papers were always right there on the shelf and you keep holding all of this stuff from the past right over my head.
I told her this divorce is the worse thing that can happen to the kids and she said, well they'll get over it, they are so mean to me anyway so you don't have to worry about them being mad at you.
I was so disgusted with her I did not even want to look at her anymore. She then said you better give me that money. I said That's it, I'm so disgusted with you especially with this other guy that I'm done, I'm leaving, I'm not giving you any money. She then started screaming at me and I said, you know what. The gambling is why you don't have any money and I left her standing there screaming in the driveway.
I'm aggravated, but I'm also having some clarity and 2nd thoughts about her. She has turned into a hostile bitch full of spite and neglect and fueled by constant resentment. It's ridiculous some of the stuff she was saying to me.
- Scott
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