Since my thread locked up. I decided to reply to your last comment here:
Originally Posted By: Yoyowife
NCB, You are such a rock to us and I hate that you are going through such pain right now. We all know what a wonderful man and father you are.
I do think that your emails to her are falling on deaf ears. I think maybe it is time just to let her be and continue to make her own mistakes. I think it will just put more hatred and justification in her heart if you continue. I'm sorry, I don't mean to sound harsh if that is how I'm coming off. I just worry about your feelings and her replies always upset you.
Perhaps you can write the letters to her and put them in a shoebox in the top of your closet. One day when this all behind you, you can take them out and bury them along with the past.
Hugs, Yoyo
Hugs, Yoyo
I really appreciate your kind words, and no, you never sound harsh. I am thankful for your candor. After so many months and years of dishonesty from the one person I thought would never be that way, I can tell you I really, really appreciate honesty.
And yes, I recognize that my words were falling on deaf ears with W, though I had a slight hope she might listen even a little tiny bit for once. All I did was put her back on the defensive. But I had to try, at least one last time before she files.
The apostle Paul instructed us to confront our brothers (and sisters), "restoring" them gently when they stray.
I have said my peace with her. Unless she wishes to engage me further in an honest and open discussion, there's really not much more to be said.
Thanks for your support. All of us here support you in return, and we're in your corner as you face this disheartening turn of events in your own situation. You have been a loving and devoted spouse, and a wonderful mother, going the extra mile for your family -- you don't deserve what your H has done.
