Wife is considering filing - Need Help

[LosingSunshine]

Ugh! As expected, I ended up in a semi R talk this evening. It started of by her asking if I had any plans tomorrow night as she wsas invited out by friends for drinks. Well, the convo turned to her feeling like a prisoner her at the house and that she feels the need to establish a schedule so that she can spend more time with kids...and referred t it as boundaries at which I said okay...draw them up. That scared her and she just wants to verbally communicate them. Of course I,ll have to come up with my own then I guess.
The talk then switched to selling the house and I said I really hadn't thought much about it. She said we need to because we can't afford for one to get a place of our own. I told her nor that I have removed every pre existing need to sell the house...job relos etc...that it is not in my nor the kids best interest. Long story short she said I wasn't being flexible and I said that the feeling is mutual. Somewhere in there she said that she's not going to change her mind and she's needs to do this for herself.

I don,t think it was bad to have this talk as I was expecting it. I did a lot of validation and managed to get my points across. We agreed not to get angry when we talk which was nice.
So, do I pull back a little more? Do I do small loving acts? She did ask tonight if I checked her car for the night and I said no. Should I have? I also touched a warm spot with what I cooked for dinner...she has always appreciated my cooking...do I play that card mildly or is that pursuing?
She wants to talk but when she does it's a cheeseless tunnel for me? By me saying that the inflexibility is mutual could that be beneficial?
I don't know. It's only near the end of week 3 of this crap and it just sucks! F! She just popped into my room to tell me that the plans changed and now won't be home after work and not until later in the evening. So much for her schedule to spend time with kids...that lasted 20 minutes! I do think I was curt with her a second ago but WTF?
This house issue is really going to get ugly because financially she is trapped and only a judge through the D process will get me to sell! And that is only if my folks don't lone me the dough which they will!

It's just frustrating. I'm not changing my mind. It's a broken record already! I know. Stop saying it!

At least I get to meet with my C tomorrow. We'll see what he says given all this crap since our last session.

I know my WAW is watching everything I do and just wants to get the f out but geesh. Stop and think of the kids for minute. At least she is not doing this for the money because there is none.
Just venting a little but could use some advice again on LRT with hell bent live in WAW.