Purple, I agree with Bridge, & Ian, do not laugh it off. He is defining you. If you don't want to go, don't go.

You deserve to be treated with respect.

hugs

M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months
4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10
I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.