Re. forgiveness: It's only recently that I've been able to not obsess and imagine conversations where I give the ow what-for. There was no spitting involved, but there was a lot of righteous anger and cutting remarks on my part. I felt a lot more peaceful when I imagined a convo where I let her say her piece and walked away. Now I don't have those convos in my head at all. I haven't forgiven her, and I don't know if I ever will. I HAVE forgiven myself--and you have, too, a long time ago, Althea. You are blossoming all over the place because of that most important forgiveness!
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